deVining the Erotic

The muses that inspire world-famous astrologer, Rob Brezsny, and the muses that give me regular insightgasms about the nature of sexual fantasies, are close cousins. 

Hang on, what?! 

What do horoscopes have to do with sexual fantasies?  

Both are incredibly underrated sources...

Does breaking down the story narrative within your sexual fantasies make it less sexy?

Hell no! It leads to much better real-life sex! Here's why. 

Just like we are hardwired for sex, we are also hard-wired for stories. 

"Human beings have been telling stories as long as there’s...

Sexual fantasies, like all stories, are not just running away from something. They are moving towards something important!

I cringe whenever anyone belittles the art of storytelling as unimportant, entertaining fairyfloss fluff and reduces the magic of stories to "an escape from the...

Why getting your sense of safety from the wrong place can make it impossible to have a fulfilling sex life. Why you aren’t getting your sexual needs met, and why it is so hard to communicate what those needs are, even when you both desire each other, and are both self-aware, considerate...

Anita was turned on by things that troubled her. How could she trust her desire when it activated in response to sexist fantasies and inappropriate and traumatic events including hearing about actual sexual violence and rape on the news? 

And yet, when we took a closer look, we found that her...

Here's the magic "open sesame" trick I used to get BDSM submissives to tell me what really turned them on, even when they didn't know themselves, and actively resisted telling me.

A professional dominatrix came to me for coaching and complained that when she asked clients what...

Artemisia de Vine offers a new and original theory: Sexual fantasies are the exact story that your ego needs to hear in order to let go and surrender into the vulnerability of pleasure and/or connection. 

Your fantasies may be make-believe but the effect they have on your mind, feelings and...

Your sexual fantasies are the exact story your ego needs to hear so you can temporarily let your guard down and surrender to the vulnerability of pleasure and connection.

Once you understand the key narrative mechanisms in your fantasies, you can bring the power behind your fantasies out of your...

Sexual fantasies of all kinds contain mini-stories in them. Each story is tailor-made by the subconscious of the person having the fantasy, in order to create the exact psychological conditions they need to let go and enter the vulnerability of pleasure. But some stories are more obvious than...

The things you think about can create an emotional and physical response in you while also shifting your consciousness from everyday mode, into desire and/or sexual arousal. 

Sexual fantasies are valuable stories, tailor-made by your subconscious just for you, and are jam-packed with the...

Do you fantasize about your lover taking the lead, making love, ravishing, or dominating you in ways that transport you into ecstasy? 

Whether you are into the historical heterosexual model of man actively leads and woman surrenders "into her feminine receptive," ...

Or

You are far more...

So you want to learn to confidently take the lead in the bedroom (or dungeon!) in ways that leave you and your partner/s wowed? 

Whether it is an erotic massage, romantic sexual encounter, fantasy role play, or a BDSM scene, there is a skill set common to all that allows you to be...