Artemisia de Vine: Sexual Fantasy and Desire Coach
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 deVining the Erotic

 The irreverent and insightful writings of

Sexologist and Retired Sex Worker, Artemisia de Vine

The psychology behind our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and repeating patterns of attraction and desire.

'Sexual play is the perfect vehicle to explore all that it means to be human.' 

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The Purpose of Sexual Fantasies is to Create Ego Dissolution

Your sexual fantasies are the exact story your ego needs to hear so you can temporarily let your guard down and surrender to the vulnerability of pleasure and connection.

Once you understand the key narrative mechanisms in your fantasies, you can bring the power behind your fantasies out of your...

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The Meaning of Sexual Fantasies About Big Boobs!

Sexual fantasies of all kinds contain mini-stories in them. Each story is tailor-made by the subconscious of the person having the fantasy, in order to create the exact psychological conditions they need to let go and enter the vulnerability of pleasure. But some stories are more obvious than...

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What are Sexual Fantasies and does everyone have them?

The things you think about can create an emotional and physical response in you while also shifting your consciousness from everyday mode, into desire and/or sexual arousal. 

Sexual fantasies are valuable stories, tailor-made by your subconscious just for you, and are jam-packed with the...

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Make Your Desire for Deep Sexual Surrender Come True

Do you fantasize about your lover taking the lead, making love, ravishing, or dominating you in ways that transport you into ecstasy? 

Whether you are into the historical heterosexual model of man actively leads and woman surrenders "into her feminine receptive," ...

Or

You are far more...

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How to Masterfully Lead any Kind of Sex

So you want to learn to confidently take the lead in the bedroom (or dungeon!) in ways that leave you and your partner/s wowed? 

Whether it is an erotic massage, romantic sexual encounter, fantasy role play, or a BDSM scene, there is a skill set common to all that allows you to be...

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We love each other but the sex is bad | Help for couples

It's a more common dilemma than you might think. Seemingly impossibly mismatched turn-ons. Oh, they are madly in love. They fit. Domestic jig saw pieces that just work on a personality level but when it comes to sex it is a tug-of-war.

It doesn't have to be this way! 

Content note: Mildly...
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Can Sex Rewire Trauma-based Negativity?
Defaulting to focusing on the negative is no more realistic than defaulting to focusing on the positive. Both are equally distorted projections with their own sets of limitations and consequences.
Those who look at a painting and only see the dark colors, only see half the picture, just the...
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Artemisia de Vine: Sexual Fantasy Specialist
Sex Worker reveals how to live out your Sexual Fantasies
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Sex Worker reveals how to live out your Sexual Fantasies

Retired sex worker, turned erotic psyche specialist - Artemisia de Vine - reveals how she brought her client’s sexual fantasies to life in fulfilling, meaningful ways.

Here’s the thing. I was paid to bring my client’s sexual fantasies to life but I never tried to be their...

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Feeling powerless in times of turmoil? Sex can help.

Ways to take your power back and make a real difference through the lens of the erotic.

Sex is not the frivolous pass time we've been led to believe it is. Just because something is playful, pleasurable, and can be lighthearted fun, does not make it meaningless or lacking potent effect.

In a...

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The Important Psychological Mechanisms of Sexual Fantasies and Fairytales

Love can mean becoming the monster they need to interact with.

In our quest to understand the perplexing nature of our sexual turn-ons, it is useful to first understand the nature of fairytales and the nature of play. Then we can begin to recognize that our turn-ons are our personalized...

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Why hook up culture needs a make over

It was gentle, sensual, and soft. I wanted to keep going but I pushed that gorgeous Italian god of tango and risotto away. 

Why?

Well it wasn't because I was playing games with him. I wasn't trying to manipulate him. I crave the opposite of that kind of shenanigan.

It wasn't because I need to...

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Marriage of Crass and Sublime

The tale of one of my early adventures as a sex worker in a country Australian town, and what I learned.

The erotic is a force leading us magnetically towards a homecoming - to the fullness and ever-evolving kaleidoscope of self.


The erotic, as an art form, is the skill of navigating the internal...

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