Artemisia de Vine: Sexual Fantasy and Desire Coach

About Artemisia de Vine

Sexologist, Writer, Mentor,


Sexual Fantasy Specialist

“Artemisia de Vine is a more sweary, smut-friendly, up-and-coming Brene` Brown or Esther Perrel.

She has the same level of powerful insights but focuses on the meaning behind sexual fantasies and desires - and how to actually use them in your real sex life. She tells it through the lens of her lived experience as a former sex worker and professional dominatrix.

She is so relatable because she articulately explains it all through stories of real humans exploring real sex. After all her body of work isn’t a theory she learned at university, but understandings she earned through actually being in sexual or BDSM situations with thousands of clients.”

Amber Patterson - 40yo Novelist Canada *

*Name changed for privacy

Having delved into the nature of sex for over 25 years, including a 12 year stint as a full time sex worker, professional dominatrix and somatic sexologist, I have some insights and skills worth sharing!  

I am grateful to have learned from many of the world's leading sexperts in the areas of somatics, trauma-informed sexual practice, BDSM, various spiritual sex traditions, sexology and more, and honestly I would not be where I am today without them. But nothing taught me as much about the subtle workings of the erotic psyche as actually engaging sexually with thousands of people as a sex worker - each client with their own unique sexual wiring. 

Initially, I had no idea what I was doing and made all sorts of mistakes and encountered common problematic patterns. But I also stumbled across some really profound sexual experiences in circumstances I never would have thought such things would occur! 

I got really curious. I wanted to work out what was happening and play with them deliberately. As a trained anthropologist and ever-curious ponderer of the human condition, I just can't leave well enough alone. I have to work out the why and how behind things. 

Over time, I developed my own system, tools, practices, and an entire body of work around: 

  • Understanding and deliberately engaging the internal force we call desire
  • Using sexual fantasies as a way to uncover the key elements in each person's unique sexual wiring.
  • Creating deliberate sexual play experiences tailored to the underlying key elements in each person's erotic psyche. 

Now I share what I learned professionally. 

I am based in Australia but teach my body of work internationally online, to a handful of people at a time, so we can go deep. 

I do not teach the mechanics of how to perform various kink or sex acts like how to give a good blow job or tie someone up safely.

I teach the magic behind the curtain that transforms those acts into an entire experience that has the power to transport us somewhere inside ourselves, and allows us to share our secret inner worlds with each other through the theatre of embodied play.