deVining the Erotic
The irreverent and insightful writings of
Sexologist and Retired Sex Worker, Artemisia de Vine
The psychology behind our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and repeating patterns of attraction and desire.
'Sexual play is the perfect vehicle to explore all that it means to be human.'
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SubscribeArtemisia de Vine offers a new and original theory: Sexual fantasies are the exact story that your ego needs to hear in order to let go and surrender into the vulnerability of pleasure and/or connection.
Your fantasies may be make-believe but the effect they have on your mind, feelings and...
Anita was turned on by things that troubled her. How could she trust her desire when it activated in response to sexist fantasies and inappropriate and traumatic events including hearing about actual sexual violence and rape on the news?
And yet, when we took a closer look, we found that her...
Your sexual fantasies are the exact story your ego needs to hear so you can temporarily let your guard down and surrender to the vulnerability of pleasure and connection.
Once you understand the key narrative mechanisms in your fantasies, you can bring the power behind your fantasies out of your...
Sexual fantasies of all kinds contain mini-stories in them. Each story is tailor-made by the subconscious of the person having the fantasy, in order to create the exact psychological conditions they need to let go and enter the vulnerability of pleasure. But some stories are more obvious than...
The things you think about can create an emotional and physical response in you while also shifting your consciousness from everyday mode, into desire and/or sexual arousal.
Sexual fantasies are valuable stories, tailor-made by your subconscious just for you, and are jam-packed with the...
Do you fantasize about your lover taking the lead, making love, ravishing, or dominating you in ways that transport you into ecstasy?
Whether you are into the historical heterosexual model of man actively leads and woman surrenders "into her feminine receptive," ...
Or
You are far more...
So you want to learn to confidently take the lead in the bedroom (or dungeon!) in ways that leave you and your partner/s wowed?
Whether it is an erotic massage, romantic sexual encounter, fantasy role play, or a BDSM scene, there is a skill set common to all that allows you to be...
It's a more common dilemma than you might think. Seemingly impossibly mismatched turn-ons. Oh, they are madly in love. They fit. Domestic jig saw pieces that just work on a personality level but when it comes to sex it is a tug-of-war.
It doesn't have to be this way!
Content note: Mildly...

Retired sex worker, turned erotic psyche specialist - Artemisia de Vine - reveals how she brought her client’s sexual fantasies to life in fulfilling, meaningful ways.
Here’s the thing. I was paid to bring my client’s sexual fantasies to life but I never tried to be their...
Ways to take your power back and make a real difference through the lens of the erotic.
Sex is not the frivolous pass time we've been led to believe it is. Just because something is playful, pleasurable, and can be lighthearted fun, does not make it meaningless or lacking potent effect.
In a...
Love can mean becoming the monster they need to interact with.
In our quest to understand the perplexing nature of our sexual turn-ons, it is useful to first understand the nature of fairytales and the nature of play. Then we can begin to recognize that our turn-ons are our personalized...