Artemisia de Vine: Sexual Fantasy and Desire Coach
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 deVining the Erotic

 The irreverent and insightful writings of

Sexologist and Retired Sex Worker, Artemisia de Vine

The psychology behind our sexual fantasies, turn-ons, and repeating patterns of attraction and desire.

'Sexual play is the perfect vehicle to explore all that it means to be human.' 

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Sexual Fantasies are Sacred Underworld Maps

Spirituality is the very last thing I am thinking about when I am indulging in one of my deliciously twisted sexual fantasies. It seems impossible to reconcile the taboo feelings with pure heart-centred ecstasy.

Yet by trusting my sexual fantasies - and my sexual partner’s too -...

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Emotions are felt somatically

And sexual fantasies are powerful stories made by your own psyche designed to unlock powerful emotional charge! 

If you watch a movie made by a master storyteller, your emotions will be evoked!

You'll fall in love with the main characters, hate the villain, squeal with surprise, feel vicarious...

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The Purpose of Sexual Fantasies is to Create Ego Dissolution

Your sexual fantasies are the exact story your ego needs to hear so you can temporarily let your guard down and surrender to the vulnerability of pleasure and connection.

Once you understand the key narrative mechanisms in your fantasies, you can bring the power behind your fantasies out of your...

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Can Sex Rewire Trauma-based Negativity?
Defaulting to focusing on the negative is no more realistic than defaulting to focusing on the positive. Both are equally distorted projections with their own sets of limitations and consequences.
Those who look at a painting and only see the dark colors, only see half the picture, just the...
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The Important Psychological Mechanisms of Sexual Fantasies and Fairytales

Love can mean becoming the monster they need to interact with.

In our quest to understand the perplexing nature of our sexual turn-ons, it is useful to first understand the nature of fairytales and the nature of play. Then we can begin to recognize that our turn-ons are our personalized...

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Marriage of Crass and Sublime

The tale of one of my early adventures as a sex worker in a country Australian town, and what I learned.

The erotic is a force leading us magnetically towards a homecoming - to the fullness and ever-evolving kaleidoscope of self.


The erotic, as an art form, is the skill of navigating the internal...

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